Hi everyone. Thanks for all your comments on yesterday’s post. I admit I’m struggling reading your comments, and responding. The Wonder Therapist did a good job yesterday of making me feel stronger and less insecure about Nice Guy. Unfortunately some of the comments are undoing that. Not your fault, obviously (no need to apologise CG), and I appreciate your concern. It’s just a sign I’m feeling fragile I suppose. Not fragile about Nice Guy per se, but about why he’d want to be with me and that sense that the bubble will burst soon enough anyway, so why bother?
In addition to remarks I posted yesterday, the Wonder Therapist has also said that my reactions are quite “normal” – and that I should just try to “enjoy it”. She even quoted Alfred Lord Tennyson to me: “Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”
She’s said that it’s incredibly rare for two people to meet, feel like things align etc… so I should live in the moment. Don’t question it. Don’t overanalyse. (Who? Me?)
I try, but it’s hard.
She also said it would be unusual for a guy to hang around if he didn’t really like someone just for the s*x – apparently s*x is not that hard to get these days, so why hang around for it? Makes sense, I guess.
She also said to take things slowly, or at least at a pace I am comfortable with. I know some of my reactions previously have been because I wasn’t comfortable. I know that now, and I am not going to jeopardise that.
So, I’m rambling, but I needed to say thank you and excuse me if I don’t respond to your comments today. It’s not that I have my head in the sand, but I need to regroup so I don’t sabotage things with Nice Guy.